Memo 009: Objection is Sustained

Not everyone's opinion is admissible

Opening Statement

Let the record reflect: not everyone deserves a say in your story.

You are not required to accept advice just because it’s offered. Not every opinion is informed. Not every critique is constructive. Sometimes, the worst feedback is delivered with the best intentions.

This week, I’m sustaining your objection. To the projections, the people-pleasing, the unsolicited “wisdom” from those who have never walked your path. This is about refining your internal jury. Listening to your intuition with the same weight you’ve been giving everyone else’s commentary.

Because the truth is: no one knows what you’re capable of.

Exhibits

Gloss Docket

Grabbing: A cold lemon perfect on a hot day; a bathing suit just in case.

Listening: Man of the Year by Lorde; Pride Weekend Playlists!!

Obsessing: Love Island USA . . . Nic and Cierra forever; day drinking on a rooftop with your besties.

Styling: A basic white tank with a fun skirt.

Stepping into: “You will never be criticized by someone doing more than you.”

Testimony

Here’s something I had to learn the hard way: not everyone is as free as you.

Some people are so committed to being perceived a certain way that they will actively sabotage their own joy to maintain the image. They will stay in careers that drain them, in relationships that cage them, in lives that look good but feel miserable, because to them, public approval is the goal.

So when you start to prioritize your truth over tradition, your vision over validation—it rattles them. Suddenly, you’re not doing life “right.” This is actually the first sign that you’re finally living for yourself. The act is over and you’ve left the stage for good.

I learned this when I called off my long term relationship to move to the city. People said things like “can’t you work it out?” As if optics were more important than reality. As if I hadn’t already spent months knowing in my bones that I hated my life.

If I had listened to them, I’d still be there . . . quietly wilting in a life that looked ideal from the outside but didn’t feel like mine.

So now, my rule is simple: I don’t take advice from anyone I wouldn’t trade places with. I love my family members, but I’m not trying to recreate their paths. I respect my peers, but I’m not interested in living for stability over self-fulfillment. I adore my friends, but unless they’ve built a life with the kind of radical honesty and aligned action I’m aiming for, I can’t let their fears become my own.

It’s not about arrogance. It’s about the discernment of knowing you are meant for the life you dream about.

And if you take advice from people who don’t understand your calling, don’t be surprised when you end up living a life that’s not your own.

Let this be your reminder: most people are following a script they didn’t write. You are brave enough to improvise.

This week, identify one piece of advice you’ve been holding onto that doesn’t actually serve you. Maybe it’s something a parent said. A mentor. A friend. A stranger on the internet. Ask yourself: Would I trade lives with them? If the answer is no, you’re not obligated to take their word as law.

Then, write a new verdict. One that belongs to you. A belief, a boundary, a decision that honors your intuition—regardless of outside opinion.

And if you want backup? Step into the Post-Briefing Chambers and share it with the group.

Closing Argument

Your life is not up for cross-examination.

Not everyone will get it. Not everyone will clap. But alignment isn’t about approval—it’s about peace. And peace often comes at the cost of disappointing people who benefit from your self-abandonment.

So be brave enough to say no thank you to the projections. To the outdated scripts. To the well-meaning but misaligned advice.

Truth-telling is disruptive. Most people avoid it to stay palatable. But you’re not here to be palatable. You’re here to lead your own revolution.

Case closed.

Xo,

Alyssa, CGO